“Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of the pleasures costs nothing and conveys much. It pleases him who gives and him who receives, and thus, like mercy, it is twice blessed.”
Common Courtesy 101
As I live my day to day life, it’s seems to me that most of the population is living in their own self created bubble. Living in the bubble they act with complete disregard of the people around them. You can see peoples lives written all over their face, if they are unhappy you can see it, even if on the surface they have a smile. They are so caught up in their world that they share it with everyone that is around them.
My mother ever since I was young taught me to be polite, and I tried my best growing up because I believed that’s what society expected. Now that I am a little older and hopefully a little wiser, I choose to be polite not because it’s the socially right thing to do, but because I want to be someone who adds something positive to his environment.
Try a Little Common Courtesy In Your Life
Just try it for a day, make this the day when the focus is not about your own needs and wants. Go into your local coffee shop, ask the cashier how their day is going, but be genuinely interested in the answer. If you do it with genuine interest, they will pick up that you are sincere in your asking.
Many will even become surprised with your attitude because most of the people they encounter don’t care. If it is a place you frequent, you will begin to develop a relationship, which with time will reveal rewards that where never expected. It won’t be long until one day you will be exposed to a new idea, all because you take interest in other peoples lives.
From my observation if people are totally consumed in their inner world, and they don’t have the proper level of understanding of how they work internally, become lost. Being lost on the inside is being lost on the outside. Success in this world deals with how well you relate to everything around you. So if you are lost in your own mind, you will not be able to relate with the outside world in a meaningful way.
In dealing with other’s I like to think of it in terms of energy. My intent is that whenever I meet someone new, I will interact in a way that will add positive energy to the other person. At the very least I want the experience to be neutral, one in which I did not have a negative effect on the person’s life.
As I mentioned above when you experience your life from only your thoughts and mind you create a bubble for your self. The problem is that it has you believe you experience your life as being separate from everything and everyone. Seeing your self as separate from the whole, leads you to judge, condemn, criticize, and compete. Going down this road is very difficult, because you are constantly in reactive mode, and seeking approval from society.
Common Courtesy Requires Awareness of Self
If you are constantly judging your environment, how will you ever have genuine interactions with others? The answer is you wont; learn to become aware of your judgments. You will come to find that whatever judgment you make, is the exact thing keeping you from understanding and connecting with whatever you are judging. Next time you judge a person that you have never met, observe your judgment without becoming attached to it. I am sure it will be a great learning experience in understanding your mental and social conditionings that are not your true nature.
Meditation is the key in becoming clear headed and ultimately more centered in your true inner being. Through daily meditation you will develop the consciousness of being calm and relaxed. By being calm and relaxed you are able to respond to your environment in the most appropriate way. When you lack the mental clarity you will simply react to your environment, and your reactions are always from past experiences, which will not be the appropriate solution to the situation at hand.
When I am calm and relaxed my interactions with other people are always very meaningful, because from these states of being you are actively listening and giving genuine feedback.
We live in a beautiful world with billions of different perspectives, learn to appreciate others. Begin sharing and contributing in any meaningful way you can, you will not only enrich your life but the lives of others. Once you become master of your inner world, you will have the level of awareness necessary to see what is actually happening in your environment. Having this level of awareness you will be able to respond and be open to other people in meaningful ways.
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