“The question is not what you look at, but what you see.” – Henry David Thoreau
Awakening Consciousness: How To See People Better
For many of us we are die hard creatures of habits, we love patterns, they make our lives easier. The problem is that life then becomes monotonous, we just run through the motions. We take something that is alive and turn it into a dead thing through a mechanical habit.
If you do something repetitively, as long as you are mindful it will be new, it will be fresh. It’s Only a matter of awareness, a habit only becomes boring when we become unaware.
I would like you to try a little experiment, next time you see a loved one or a friend, try and see them as if they are a stranger. Like this is the very first time you are looking at their face. Really feel it. See them simply and without any inner verbalization. Try and put aside everything you know about this person, suspend your beliefs.
I think you will come to realize that it has been a very long time since you have actually looked at this person. The person may even appear to look completely different to you. Take a real penetrating look, notice every little detail, the wrinkles in the skin, the imperfections, the freckles, everything. You may even really feel that they are a stranger to you.
We are never the same, but because we think we know someone, we quit looking and then only carry that image of them in our minds.
You can also try the opposite, next time you’re in a public place look at a stranger like he is a long lost friend. Really feel like you once knew this person very well. How does this attitude make you feel? Do you feel like some how you have a connection with this person, even though you know nothing about them? Do you feel a sense of compassion? Do strangers now seem less scary? Try it; I would love to hear your experience.
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