“The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Learning To Be All By Yourself

There is no doubt that we are social creatures who need to meet and connect with others. Our modern-day society also makes it very easy to find like-minded people who we can connect with. While it’s great to socialize and have a great time with others, I feel that many of us do not take enough time to be with ourselves. If you constantly choose to express your ideas only when you are with others, you might never really be confident in them, you will always need another’s approval to confirm or deny them.

The reality is that most are slaves to their minds, and always need to be entertained with something. If you are home alone, resist the temptation to turn on the TV, and learn to be with your silence and inner space. Learn to watch everything that’s going on inside of you. Learn to see your beliefs, penetrate them, you will see that they were never truly yours, they were given to you.

Discovering Your True Self By Exploring Your Inner Space

The more you learn to be with yourself the more grounded you will become; you will learn to really love being yourself. Only when you can love yourself, will you be able to love someone else. True love without unrealistic expectations, or conditions that must be met.

You also need to understand that most people don’t really understand themselves, so don’t rely on others for solutions to your problems. Just go inward; if you are sincere in your efforts, you will go down a path of inner transformation. The better you understand yourself, the better you are able to respond to your external environment. Slowly you will develop your intuitive abilities, and not allow yourself to be led astray by others. You will be able to see if others are genuine in trying to help with any of your endeavors.

Through meditation, you will learn to go to the depths of your being. You will gradually penetrate and come to see all the things that are operating below your conscious awareness. Things like your negative tendencies and negative thoughts that sabotage your conscious decisions. They were only allowed to exist because you lacked the proper awareness. Once you gain a deep understanding through your awareness, you will simply drop them.

To make positive lasting change you need to go deep and become more conscious and alert. This is why it’s important to take plenty of time for deep introspection. Just remember that if you don’t question you don’t internalize. The more you question the more you will able to see all the cycled dramas and dialogues of your life, it will help you become conscious of them. You will see that you were trained to mother wrong experiences in your life. Learn to mother great things, right things, right thoughts, and break the cycle.

If you learn to be with your inner space, you will create more and more space for you to witness and question everything. Living in this space will give you the ability to change and evolve yourself to the next stage of your growth.

In Being Yourself Self Remembrance is Key

From my experience, I notice that the more calm and even-minded I become from being in my silence, the more aware I become of myself. What I mean by self-remembrance is that you learn to constantly remember and acknowledge your existence. You become more present and your way of life becomes more experiential.

The more self remembrance I develop the more I am able to recall every single moment of my day with amazing clarity. You will gradually learn to remember yourself while observing yourself. When you are in a state of self-consciousness you can experience having flashes of objective consciousness and remember them. This is difficult for me to articulate into words as it is something you will have to experience for yourself.

The more I allow myself to be in my silence, the easier I am able to shed my ego, old habits, and old ways of thinking, become open to a new perspective, and make my being more conducive to growth. I am able to go past my obstacles by keeping my mind fluid.

Seeing Without Verbalization

Learn to see without verbalization, which is to see without becoming attached and giving something a label. Just pay attention when you’re at a park and you see a beautiful rose, you will see that as soon as you process it in your mind and verbalize it, you disconnect from reality and its beauty.

You go into your own dream world no longer connected with the object you were seeing. The more you learn to see without inner verbalization the more childlike you will become, you will see the boundary between you and the rose melt. You will also notice that colors become more vibrant, it’s as if your eyes now have high-definition.

Many who read this will say, that sounds great but how do I stop verbalizing, is it even possible? Something you need to understand is that your mind is a subtle action. You pose your mind with a question and it takes action on it. But just like with any action, you have control over it once you’re aware of it. Just as I can decide to start walking, I can decide to stop walking.

You just need to become conscious of your mind and decide at this moment to stop thinking and become unidentified with the mind. The problem is that most people don’t realize this and let their minds run wild thinking that it’s the mind’s only state. Meditation can help you learn to drop the mind and go into a space of mindlessness. If you are disciplined and sincere in your efforts you will become calmer and even-minded.

You will learn to use the mind when it’s needed and put it aside when it’s not. Just analyze yourself, how do you feel when you have constant incessant inner chattering? It takes a great toll on your system, you become tired and lethargic. When you learn to put your mind aside when it’s not needed, you will notice more energy rise up within you.

Things To Do by Yourself

Here are a few suggestions that cost little to no money, of where you can take the time to just be with yourself. Activities for inner exploration and growth.

• Walking in the woods: Being with nature different parts of your being become activated, learn to observe your surroundings without any verbalization, just become one with the forest.

• Meditate on the beach: Great way to be with nature and tune in to all the sounds around you. Make sure you wear sunscreen, last weekend I got a terrible sunburn.

• Flying a Kite: One of my favorite things to do as a kid, I still remember how peaceful it made me feel.

• Sitting at a park bench (people watching): Go to your favorite park, unclutch from the mind, and become aware of everything going on around you. Notice how vibrant the flowers are, and the smells in the air. Bring a notebook with you, and jot down anything that arises from your experience of silently observing.

• Sitting on your front porch drinking tea.

• Watching the sunset: Just see it don’t verbalize. Feel the connection between your inner space and the sky.

• Fishing: When I was young I used to hate when my father took me fishing, I did not realize the great opportunity it was for inner growth.

Hope you enjoyed my article on the importance of learning to be with yourself. Next time you find yourself bored and restless, try one of the activities I mentioned above and realize this is a great opportunity for personal growth.

In the comments below please share an activity that you enjoy doing by yourself.

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